THE
BIOLOGY OF BAR LOVE
True
love seems to be on the radar for most everyone. Why is it that
although we say we are searching for true love we settle for any type
of attention that comes our way.
Most
don't admit to settling for bar love. It would diminish our
relationships and make them seem like a waste of time.
There
is a separation of the human body and the human mind.
The
human body has no need for commitment, monogamy, and happily ever
after. The human mind however has convinced us that what we need is
so much more than the biological.
Biology
101
Male
sexual arousal:
A
man's sense of sexual arousal can be very subtle. Most men are
conditioned through their experiences as to what it is they find
attractive. All he needs is a familiar scent, or a slight caress.
He may get aroused with a look or gesture. A man does not need much
to experience sexual excitement and erection. The progression is
excitement, plateau, orgasm and resolution.
Female
sexual arousal:
A
woman's sexual response is connected to her mind and body. A woman
is aroused through her various systems, sight, sound, smell, touch,
taste. As with a man a woman is conditioned through her experiences
as to what she finds attractive. A woman's arousal includes her
endocrine, nervous, hormonal, cardiovascular, respiratory and
reproductive system. How complex! The progression is desire,
excitement, plateau, orgasm and resolution.
The
complexity of the human system for reproduction is voided out in any
environment where our senses are dulled such as with alcohol and or
other substances. When a man or woman is in an environment where a
suitable mate is spotted logic goes out the window and fireworks
happen.
This
wonderful sensation you are experiencing is natures way of making
sure we reproduce. This exciting bliss is the animal kingdom
guarding us from extinction.
We
continue the mating ritual despite all the warnings because of all
the chemicals released during the initial reproductive cycle. This
is why 30 – 60 days into dating when the chemical reaction of
dopamine and other feel good endorphins are no longer being released
we begin to recognize crazy in all its glory.
You
couldn't see the trouble because of the haze. We ignore anything
blatantly obvious about how not right this union is so that we could
mate without guilt.
Bar
Love.
If
you know that you are literally wearing rose colored glasses due to a
large dose of chemicals being released step away from the situation.
Listen to those around you, if there are many, that are saying how
bad this person is for you or how unhealthy your relationship is.
WAKE UP and realize that you don't have to give in to your animal
nature. That you can wait out the biological bar love for the real
thing.
