The Biology of Bar Love

THE BIOLOGY OF BAR LOVE

True love seems to be on the radar for most everyone. Why is it that although we say we are searching for true love we settle for any type of attention that comes our way.

Most don't admit to settling for bar love. It would diminish our relationships and make them seem like a waste of time.

There is a separation of the human body and the human mind.

The human body has no need for commitment, monogamy, and happily ever after. The human mind however has convinced us that what we need is so much more than the biological.

Biology 101

Male sexual arousal:

A man's sense of sexual arousal can be very subtle. Most men are conditioned through their experiences as to what it is they find attractive. All he needs is a familiar scent, or a slight caress. He may get aroused with a look or gesture. A man does not need much to experience sexual excitement and erection. The progression is excitement, plateau, orgasm and resolution.

Female sexual arousal:

A woman's sexual response is connected to her mind and body. A woman is aroused through her various systems, sight, sound, smell, touch, taste. As with a man a woman is conditioned through her experiences as to what she finds attractive. A woman's arousal includes her endocrine, nervous, hormonal, cardiovascular, respiratory and reproductive system. How complex! The progression is desire, excitement, plateau, orgasm and resolution.

The complexity of the human system for reproduction is voided out in any environment where our senses are dulled such as with alcohol and or other substances. When a man or woman is in an environment where a suitable mate is spotted logic goes out the window and fireworks happen.

This wonderful sensation you are experiencing is natures way of making sure we reproduce. This exciting bliss is the animal kingdom guarding us from extinction.

We continue the mating ritual despite all the warnings because of all the chemicals released during the initial reproductive cycle. This is why 30 – 60 days into dating when the chemical reaction of dopamine and other feel good endorphins are no longer being released we begin to recognize crazy in all its glory.

You couldn't see the trouble because of the haze. We ignore anything blatantly obvious about how not right this union is so that we could mate without guilt.

Bar Love.

If you know that you are literally wearing rose colored glasses due to a large dose of chemicals being released step away from the situation. Listen to those around you, if there are many, that are saying how bad this person is for you or how unhealthy your relationship is. WAKE UP and realize that you don't have to give in to your animal nature. That you can wait out the biological bar love for the real thing.