WHEN
BAD RELATIONSHIPS GO BAD
Once
upon a time there was this boy and this girl. They met and instantly
knew that things were ok when they were together.
Even
though there were no fireworks and they knew that this was no where
near what love should be they stayed together anyway because well
they had nothing better to do at the time.
They
passed the time with one another, they didn't really have anything in
common, they really didn't see things the same way even important
things like how to raise children, family values or relationship
values yet they stayed together passing the time.
They
pretty much lived as roommates, existing through life but never
feeling really alive. Years went by and even though they argued
about simple things they didn't agree on and important things they
didn't agree on they married anyway.
They
secretly didn't like one another and this was obvious to everyone
around them so it was not much of a secret.
The
children came one after another and they felt very disconnected
because they had never talked about their differences and as the kids
grew the kids noticed the strange way that their parents never
connected but because the boy and girl stayed together their kids
thought that this was the way a relationship was supposed to be and
they were doomed to have the same kind of unhappy love life.
The
boy and girl sometimes dreamed about what life would be like if they
had met a person that actually made them feel happy but now too many
years had passed and they just stayed together passing the time.
Misery
and sadness was the only life they knew and it was easy for them to
stray into other lives and other relationships which only created
more misery and sadness.
Until
one day they separated and the children who had never learned to
relate properly were torn apart and anger and resentment which had
filled all of their lives was the only emotion they knew since they
had been living with it since they met.
The
(sad, terrible) End.
Does
any of this sound familiar? Don't let this be your story.
If
your just starting out and you know this is just a fill in
relationship get out, its not fair to either one of you to let it get
out of your hands.
If
your past that and have children, don't take out your bad choices on
one another or the children. You chose this path now you must admit
it and remove the anger and animosity from your wasted time. If your
partner cannot release with grace have the guts to be the bigger
loser and bow out. No one else needs to suffer due to your bad
choice. You stayed with this person too long to blame them. You are
the master of your own destiny move on with dignity. Accept your
role in this unfulfilled life and don't receive nor give any more
pain.
Love
your children and start living.
