When bad relationships go bad

WHEN BAD RELATIONSHIPS GO BAD

Once upon a time there was this boy and this girl. They met and instantly knew that things were ok when they were together.

Even though there were no fireworks and they knew that this was no where near what love should be they stayed together anyway because well they had nothing better to do at the time.

They passed the time with one another, they didn't really have anything in common, they really didn't see things the same way even important things like how to raise children, family values or relationship values yet they stayed together passing the time.

They pretty much lived as roommates, existing through life but never feeling really alive. Years went by and even though they argued about simple things they didn't agree on and important things they didn't agree on they married anyway.

They secretly didn't like one another and this was obvious to everyone around them so it was not much of a secret.

The children came one after another and they felt very disconnected because they had never talked about their differences and as the kids grew the kids noticed the strange way that their parents never connected but because the boy and girl stayed together their kids thought that this was the way a relationship was supposed to be and they were doomed to have the same kind of unhappy love life.

The boy and girl sometimes dreamed about what life would be like if they had met a person that actually made them feel happy but now too many years had passed and they just stayed together passing the time.

Misery and sadness was the only life they knew and it was easy for them to stray into other lives and other relationships which only created more misery and sadness.

Until one day they separated and the children who had never learned to relate properly were torn apart and anger and resentment which had filled all of their lives was the only emotion they knew since they had been living with it since they met.

The (sad, terrible) End.

Does any of this sound familiar? Don't let this be your story.

If your just starting out and you know this is just a fill in relationship get out, its not fair to either one of you to let it get out of your hands.

If your past that and have children, don't take out your bad choices on one another or the children. You chose this path now you must admit it and remove the anger and animosity from your wasted time. If your partner cannot release with grace have the guts to be the bigger loser and bow out. No one else needs to suffer due to your bad choice. You stayed with this person too long to blame them. You are the master of your own destiny move on with dignity. Accept your role in this unfulfilled life and don't receive nor give any more pain.

Love your children and start living.