Part 2 - Who are you? Really.

Have you identified yourself yet? We are all in here somewhere. It varies in degrees as to how deep into this persona we are but all of us are here.

This is not the end of your dating life. With the exception of The Beast, who needs professional help, these attributes do not render us dateless. If anything being able to identify how you are behaving may help you to limit or minimize how you are in a relationship and also help you not to become involved with someone that you know would not make a good match. Believe it or not there are some people out there who think its cute that you cracked their password and read their emails. It makes them feel like you really care about them. The yin to your yang so to speak.

We all have pieces of these characteristics. A combo pack is not so bad as long as your not ruled wholeheartedly by any one behavior.

If you can identify your actions you may be able to gather the insight you need to tell you why you behave this way towards others and towards yourself.

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Ask yourself these questions:

Why am I so clingy, angry etc.?

What am I afraid of?

Who am I mimicking with this behavior?

How can I start to feel better about myself? About this relationship?

What do I need to be happy?

What do I need to do to feel fulfilled?

Is something missing from my life?

Why is my relationship good for me?

Why is my relationship bad for me?

Am I repeating a pattern of behavior?

Am I dating the same failed characteristic over and over again?

How can I change any part of what is destructive to me?

What can I eliminate to change my outcome?

Try to answer any of these questions with absolute honesty. Again I can't stress this enough don't ever lie to yourself. Its the only way your ever going to get to the other side of this.

You also have to consider that you are great just the way you are and that it may be your choice in a mate that is flawed. Again this is where you have to be completely honest with your role in unhappy.

Your have a major role in your unhappy life.  Print out the questions and answer them.  It will change the way you view your love life by opening up the way you see yourself.